The one thing that will make difficult conversations easier

We all want to have a good time at work. And most of us want other people to have a good time too.

Which is why we don’t like difficult conversations. Because they are not fun.

But the truth is, we cannot avoid them.

People will make mistakes. They will be late. Or get lazy.

Their desks will be messy. The wrong thing will get said. Jobs will be lost.

People will feel annoyed. They will feel angry. They will feel hurt. And may hurt in return.

Hell, sometimes we’ll be the slack ones. The hurt and hurting.

We’re human beings living in glass houses.

So what do we do about this? How do we have these difficult conversations that we don’t want to have but have to?

Above all else, we can do one thing.

We can stop seeing them as ‘difficult’ in the first place.

Because how we see becomes what we see. What we see becomes what we say. What we say becomes what we do. And what we do becomes who we are.

And we don’t want to be difficult people. Because we’re not difficult people.

We are, like everyone else, underneath it all, tender-hearted human beings.

So let’s bin the bravado. Away with the awkwardness. Let’s ditch difficult conversations all together.

And instead, let’s have tender conversations.